My first bad experience

The title is a little misleading - this is my only bad experience, but I'd still prefer calling it my "first" bad experience, perhaps in anticipation of worse things to come!

This was long ago - perhaps in 2014 or so. I was quite active on a dating site - one for the homos! There are far too many such sites, and most of them are used by people looking forward for immediate gratification. I was quite new to the scene, and it took me quite a while to understand the intentions of people who pinged on such websites. (So naive of me!)

So, this was sometime towards the end of 2014, If I remember things correctly. I was fresh out of the failed experience - and I was all hopeful of finding someone who could do it. I chatted with many profiles, and most of them didn't click. One profile clicked - we communicated over message for a while, and I think we had a spark. I agreed to meet - he was ready to host. Without a second thought, I agreed to head to his place - we both were in the same city, but we were far apart. I decided to hire a cab - and put in the landmark he had provided. 

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Although I had been staying in the city for about 3 years, I wasn't much aware of the part of the city where he was put up. The cab driver drove me to the landmark I had provided - the guy whom I was meeting had informed that I must call him when we passed a particular place, lets call it "A". The cab driver took a short cut - and we didn't go through this "A", but went straight to the landmark he had provided. I called up the guy after I reached the place - he got furious that I didn't call him when we passed A, and all that. I felt a little amiss here - but was more excited about doing the thing. 

We met up about 5 minutes later - he didn't talk much, and just asked me to follow him. We reached outside place - he wanted me to enter through the "rear" door, which opened straight to his room. The rest of the house was kept locked. We reached his bedroom - a small congested room, in a very old house. There was a bed with provision to put on mosquito nets. It was a single bed, if I remember. 

He came in to the room after locking the rear door. Soon after he came, he asked me to undress, which I was very eager to, in any case. He didn't undress fully - was still in his inners. He tucked in a pack of condom under the pillow before we started. This made me even more excited! We didn't speak much - actually, didn't even introduce ourselves. I was standing nude in front of a complete stranger (so idiotic, I must say). 

He ordered me on the bed, which I complied immediately. He lay on me, and started biting my nipples. The nipple is perhaps the most sensitive part in the body - I was getting a high immediately, and tried resisting. He pushed off my hand and continued devouring my nipples. He was bitting, squeezing and what not - he finished one nipple and progressed to the next. The returned to the first one. Both my nipples were sore about 10 minutes into this ordeal. I was actually getting tortured now. 

After he finished enjoying my nipples, he pulled down his inner and asked me to suck his tool. I was a little excited now - but the teeny weeny tool didn't look very inviting. I think he suffered from phimosis and the foreskin wouldn't open. I tried playing with his tool for a while, and realised this is not happening. I told him I can't do this - his instantaneous reaction was to pull up his inners and frown upon me. He spoke a little harsh about why I was wasting his time and all that. He literally ordered me out - without even giving the opportunity to clean. This was a very disappointing, and depressing incident - so bad that I removed my profile from the dating site immediately. Its a different thing that I opened a new profile on the same site - and have two very good partners from there!

Some pointers for people who are new to this:

1. Never agree for a first meeting at his place. I would say, not at your place either. Always call for meeting at a neutral place - like a restaurant or cafe. Speak over a cup of tea. Understand the intentions of the guy. Somebody who is desperate for a hole wouldn't agree to this prerequisite - helps you rule out desperados. 

2. Very clearly communicate what are your limits. What is permitted and what is not must be defined. 

3. Try not to get on to bed unless you aren't very comfortable with the person. I've been on bed during the very first date even after this incident - but I had fairly long communication with the guy before we agreed to meet. 

4. If the person speaks rudely on any ocassion, better stay away. Unless you are looking for a master-submissive relationship, that is. 

5. Try to stay calm!

This was the only "bad" experience I had - the others have been pleasant, or wen't atleast partially to expectations. I make it a point to have prolonged communication before agreeing to meet, and that has worked for me. Some people get angry the moment I ask for details, or a meeting before making it to bed - I am happy to be away from such people. Homosexual relations are not only about doing the thing - unless there is a connect, it just becomes equivalent to visiting a whore. I didn't begin meeting people expecting a long relationship - my initial policy was of a no-strings attached, f**k & forget experience. It turns out, that doesn't always work!

So stay cool, do not hurry, talk & try to understand before you agree to a date!